This is something I feel pretty much on a daily basis. Trapped.
It’s a horrible feeling, especially since every time I try to reach out and grasp onto something meant to help pull me out, I seem to get trapped all over again and have to struggle to find my way back out again.
It’s exhausting. It’s depressing. And it’s often unexplainable & unrelatable to a lot of people in my life that I wish understood it better.
A few weeks ago I had a bit of a rough day (to say the least) and I cried to my boyfriend about how I felt so trapped in my head, and I was so exhausted all the time of having to be aware, or trying to remember what skills to use to help me in what situations. I tried to explain to him that even just small things that most people do without thinking about them take a lot of concentration & effort, especially I’m feeling unstable. Simple things like making a meal can sometimes go wrong so quickly, and he has a hard time grasping what is going on in my head & why it’s so hard for me.
It’s not his fault, of course. He tries his best, and he’s oh so patient with me. And I’m honestly glad that he doesn’t really understand, because it means that he hasn’t had to deal with this sort of frustration and pain on the level that I am.
I decided to get this book a while ago because I’d been noticing that my anger was suddenly out of control. I went from being this person who rarely felt anger (or so I thought) to being someone who felt angry all the time, and it made me really uncomfortable. I knew something had to be done, so I bought the book and also started seeing a counselor who helped me with my anger. Here are some of the notes I took on it!
When I first really started to notice my anger, it took me by surprise. In the past anytime I had been even remotely angry I would have a good cry over it and not actually feel that angry at all. I often felt ashamed, stupid, weak or powerless, ridiculed, betrayed…but I didn’t really felt like I was actually angry. I just thought I was a person who didn’t ever really get angry.
Wow, I can’t believe March is already (almost) over! This month felt like it went by really fast, but I have been keeping fairly busy so that definitely makes the time feel like it’s just flying by.
Today I’ve been spending some free time going over plans for April & checking out how I did for March. I am really excited for April, and am really proud of my progress from March. At the end of February I decided I wanted to focus on my mindfulness, thus, Mindful March was born. If you check out that post you can see a bit more info about it!
So a quick recap of what my Mindful March consisted of:
Major focus on Mindfulness in my DBT books
Daily Mindful tracker (I’ve called mine Mindful Life)
I talk about a few things in this post that might upset or trigger someone. Please be warned that this post is about a little ‘fight’ with my boyfriend and I do talk about some negative thought processes.
Sometimes my emotions are easy to decipher, like when I’m happy or calm. They are steady and not wavering, and if they happen to change they do so slowly and not erratically. But other times it often feels like someone took a box of discarded emotions, shook it up, opened it and dumped it all onto my lap at once and I’m trying to frantically get a hold of them but I don’t know where one starts & another begins. Sometimes people don’t seem to understand how exhausting this can be, and a lot of the time they don’t even know it’s going on. Sometimes it comes on so quickly that I’m not able to get on top of it and use my skills to handle it as well as I could, and sometimes I’m already so vulnerable due to other things going on that using skills doesn’t even cross my mind.
The other day I had an eye exam, which I was mildly anxious about. The last eye exam I’d been to was a few years ago, and the optometrist wasn’t very impressed that I kept flinching or blinking during the exams. Of course I wasn’t doing it on purpose, I’m one of those people who doesn’t like anything around their eyes, even their own fingers. So having someone else close to my eyes with weird instruments always has me on edge a bit. After the appointment I felt horrible all day, I kept thinking to myself that I was so useless I couldn’t even sit still and not blink long enough to get my eyes checked. What a failure. No wonder why nobody likes me. The optometrist had every right to be rude and angry. Why am I even alive? This is all so stupid, I just want to die.
I wanted to share these pages with a few people, and the easiest way to do so seems to be to make a post somewhere…so here it is! This is some pictures of most of the pages (so far) in my Mental Health BuJo! It’s not perfect, it’s not fancy…but I like it and it is helpful for me, which is the most important part. Thanks for looking, I hope everyone who has wanted to see more can get some inspiration for their own!
Just a quick note…I don’t track anything in my MHBuJo. I have no mood trackers and I don’t do any of my DBT ‘homework’ in it. It’s mostly notes and some diagrams, quotes, and anything else I come across that I think might be helpful to me in times of distress or just to life my spirits in general. That being said, even without this having much personal information it is still a very private & personal thing to me, all of the things in it are things that I know will help me, so a lot of this might not be useful to others. This is just the stuff I’ve found so far that I’ve noticed I need to be reminded of, or that I’ve found will help keep me on track during a bad day.